At its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. Many would say that romance is about love, yet even love is elusive, and, if that be the case, how should one go in finding romance? Since finding the right romantic partner is becoming a difficult journey, it’s time to accept the situation and start dealing with it with the right attitude.
Feelings are informational, meaning that it lets us know whether we love ourselves, abandoning ourselves, or others are either loving or controlling. Now that you’re beginning to understand your feelings, go further by moving towards those feelings rather than going away from it dismissing it by staying focused more on your thoughts or judging yourself. It may be difficult at first, but when you initiate inviting your love into your heart, you consciously open the possibility of learning about loving yourself. Then try to explore your ego-wounded self, understanding the fear and false beliefs of yourself, which is negatively pointing to self-abandoning. If you have experienced being heartbroken, lonely or helpless over someone, find out within you and understand what is causing the pain. The answers may come in words, images, or in a dream, for as long as your heart is open to learning, the answers will come. Then take the loving action of allowing time to heal the shame, anxiety and depression, and overtime, loving yourself and connecting with yourself is the key to loving and connecting with others.
Go after your fate in life
When you begin to chart your life the way you want to live, you will discover that you’re becoming attractive to the right people who are attracted to your sense of independence and adventure.
The problems of the fantasy partner
Be grounded as to be down-to-earth in looking for the right partner, instead of fantasizing a partner who is just a product of your own imagination. When you drag yourself into that fantasy world, you start altering your behavior towards the appeasement of that hypothetical partner, in the hopes that someone will fit into that fantasy mold. The effect will allow you to wander away from reality and from the real path in your life.
Act on it
The laws of attraction is influential and powerful, and so, it tells us that in due season, the right person, who is fated to be your partner, will turn up. Decide to act by going on dates, be on the social scene, go for group dating.
Get rid of your baggage
Get rid, as soon as possible with that emotional baggage, which is a useless load adding so much heaviness without getting resolutions. As soon as you have learned how to open up and have come to love yourself, there should be no evidence of heaviness as you have also begun to let go of your emotional baggage.